For the last 15 years or so, I have felt the words, "too busy" are almost sinful in nature. I have heard those words so many times. Not only to me, but in casual conversation with people to other people. I can be understanding of this response, "I'm too busy". Sometimes we are "too busy" to do what may be asked of us. Many times though it is a pat answer because it is something we just don't want to do. So to get out of it we say we are too busy.
Anyway, around 15 years ago I found those words coming out of my mouth and I didn't like myself for that. I wasn't too busy. I just didn't want to do what was being suggested. Which that is fine, I don't have to always do what others ask. I could easily fall into the trap of placing too much on my plate and not doing my duties as a wife and a mother.
I decided it was time to place certain limits on what others asked of my time. As a side note, I do feel everyone should in some way volunteer in some capacity. For some, it can consist of very little time, but something, as so many organizations require volunteers to make it a better place. I decided my volunteer work would be at church. I teach a weekly hour and 15 minute lesson throughout the year. During the school year I teach 1st graders and during the summer I teach teenagers. My friends know this. When my friends choose their own project they want to work on and say to me, "Hey Nancy, would you help with this good cause?" I politely now say, "Thanks, but I'm putting my volunteer hours in at the church and I know my limits. It was thoughtful of you to think of me though." I think that comes across as being much more polite and truthful than saying the words, "I'm too busy."
Yesterday though, I found myself being placed in a 'too busy' situation. It was my own fault. I fell short of meeting other's, friends, expectations. I fell short of my duties as a homemaker. I didn't meet my own needs and that made me feel awful on the inside. I have a couple of friends I really need to set some boundaries with who feel they can take of my time as they wish. I don't want to hurt their feelings so this is going to be hard. I'm going to use my calendar more, much more! I'm also thinking I need to be more scheduled and less flexible to jump to the phone or jump in the car at a moment's notice. I have do have time in my schedule for my friends and for all my activities. Sometimes I just don't have as much time as they would like to take of me.
God's Blessings to you all,